Esther has always been a little smarter then her peers. By the age of 3 she was speaking in complete sentences and bossing everyone around including her siblings. I saw this characteristic as positive since I just figured she was sassy with brains…. Until another mom pointed out that some girls didn’t want to play with her at a preschool picnic. I seconded guessed my own kid and it didn’t feel good. I ended up having a discussion about the situation with her teacher. She quickly reassured me that there was nothing wrong and to let her be because the last thing I want to do is squash her natural leadership qualities. After much deliberation I came to the conclusion that that’s who she is. My daughter is bossy so what!!
Communicating with her helped her be aware that sometimes people might perceive her trying to be a leader into being mean. Having a pep talk every morning before school has helped her socially tremendously. Here are a few things we talk about to help her through her day.
1) A leader doesn’t yell, or give orders instead, they ask kindly.
2) Leaders don’t over talk when someone else is speaking , instead they are polite and wait their turn.
3) A leader works well in a group and cares about their peers feelings.